I don’t know about you but I’ve seen too many moms give everything they have to to their kids and give nothing to themselves. Why is that? Perhaps because they’re selfless, loving women who feel their priority should be their kids above all else. Well I’m here to tell you that mindset is not right. Your first priority should be you.
Moms, girlfriends, even dads, boyfriends, anyone really, can feel the need to sacrifice themselves for the benefit of another person. It sounds good in theory. It could even lead to a wonderful outcome for the person benefitting from the giving. In the long run, would it produce a happy ending? Let’s use a basic example. Pretend you’re a mother of two kids. Both of them are going off to college and you busted your bottom working 12 hour shifts to afford to provide for them a loan free education.
The work was grueling. It was high stress and involved a lot of nights mindlessly typing on the computer. You ate whatever you could find closest to the office. Some days it was a hamburger with a large order of fries, other days it was a pizza slice with garlic bread. Everything is going well for the kids and you’re attempting to pay for a bill online.As you press the submit button on your checking account, all of sudden have a pounding headache. It’s so severe you can barely see, it’s almost as if your brain exploded.
You scream and your husband comes and calls 911. They rush you to the hospital and do an Xray. They find a vein inside your brain ready to burst. If your husband wouldn’t have been there you would have died from an aneurism. Weeks later, after surgery, you’re at home recovering. Your kids come see you, but they can’t be there often because they have to prepare for finals.
Thankfully this kind of occurrence is rare. People don’t tend to die from such things just because they’re putting forth the effort for others. What I’m trying to get at is that at the end of the day no one is going to take care of you except you. If you get sick, as supportive and as loving as the people around you can be, they can’t be there for you every minute of everyday. Think of it this way, if you don’t stay healthy and relieve any stress you have, who’s going to be there for your loved ones in the long run. You don’t want them to have to plan your funeral early in life just because you decided to work extra shifts to pay for that sweater your daughter loves in a job that drives you crazy.
You have to be good to yourself. You have to be mindful and aware of the hazards of daily life so that way you can be there for your friends and family in the long run. It pays to be a little selfish. Besides, I bet if you treat yourself, you’ll be in a good mood and everyone loves happy people.
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Article written by: Rosemary Jasmine Rivera
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